A friend of mine Cara, who is also a lifestyle blogger recently published a blog post about turning 29 and listed all the things she’d like to try and do before she is 30. This inspired me to do the same, obviously I am no longer 30, I turned 31 last October but I have plenty of things I wish to achieve before I do the whole settle down-get married-have kids milestone. A lot of the things on this list will be travel related but there is no particular order. So this is my three year plan of things I want to do before I become a mum.
1: Get my 4th and 5th tattoos. I am already planning the 4th.
2: Publish a book, I’ve always wanted to do this & I’m working on an illustrated poetry book.
3: Visit Ireland & Scotland because these places are part of my heritage.
4: Learn how to drive a car and a moped.
5: Do my yoga teacher training in Thailand for 2 months in the distant future.
6: Visit Bali (after yoga teacher training).
7: Go skydiving just once, I’ll be petrified but I’ll do it!
8: Start learning how to grow my own herbs.
9: Organize or be a part of a yoga & belly dance community project to help others.
10: Attend Spanish evening classes, I’ve always wanted to learn Spanish.
11: Learn to trust people again, create close friendships.
12: Try doing a spoken word poem performance.
13: I’d love to be published with Kinfolk magazine.
14: Be able to do the splits (childhood dream).
15: Teach internationally (alongside my local classes), perhaps Spain and Portugal?
16: Visit Cambodia & Vietnam (perhaps before yoga teacher training?).
17: Swim with Dolphins (Making sure they are not in captivity).
18: Pluck up the courage to attend a Latin dance classes.
19: Go hot air ballooning somewhere amazing (not the UK).
20: Visit a place of paradise (like the Maldives) as part of my honeymoon.
Wish me luck! That’s a pretty epic list! A lot of these things I know I will achieve within the next few years (I hope) and you’ll notice I didn’t include any European destinations to travel to and that’s because, whilst I may go on mini breaks to maybe be a guest teacher (who knows), I am fully aware that places like Italy, Czech Republic and Spain are easy to visit with kids, so certain destinations will be put on hold until I have kids to go on family holidays in Europe. It’s a lot harder to visit the Far East with children and sometimes less fun when you know have to be responsible for little people. I already have ideas for a potential wedding and honeymoon and knowing me, it will be unconventional, not on purpose but if I ever did get married I really don’t want the fuss of dealing with a huge bunch of people, my wedding day will be simple and very minimal with a bohemian flare. I’d be totally happy getting married on a beach somewhere (for example) with only a small group of loved ones present with flower garlands and dream catchers dotted about.
In regards to number 11, I realized I’ve never truly enjoyed close relationships with others and it’s a massive shock when someone is kind to me. I’ve unfortunately had a rough time growing up in a difficult family life and meeting dishonest people who took advantage of my kindness. This, over the years made me reserved and I question peoples motives. I do have one best friend who I love dearly but I now want to cultivate strong bonds and happy friendships with more people, this has already started, I met two beautiful, sweet young women I consider my younger sisters and my yoga teacher is slowly becoming a true friend. It’s finding people on my life journey who truly love me no matter what and my heart is slowly healing, this feels good.
Photos by Jon Roberts.